I have counselled a number of mothers whose children have disappointed them in some way or another. Most of them have the same first response as Lysa TerKeurst : “And you know what I’m tempted to do as a mom? Draw a straight line from my child’s wrong choice to my weakness in mothering.”
If you’d like to know more of her thinking process about this, go here. It’s worth the read.
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This attitude isn’t necessarily the exclusive province of mothers. Fathers…at least this one…are acutely aware of the same feelings of failure and inadequacy. I am reminded of Danny Thomas’ monologues at the end of his shows, where he goes over what he should have done, how he should have behaved. And, I suspect that a lot of time I will spend in Purgatory will be like that as I climb the mountain, carrying all those bags of rocks until I learn to put them down at last, at long, long last.
Very, very good point, Peadar. Thank you for making it. I love the analogy of “carrying all those bags of rocks until I learn to put them down at last, at long, long last.” Amen.
You are very welcome, Sister. I had in mind both The Purgatorio and the film The Mission.
God bless you, and your work.
hits pretty close to home.
Have a diet coke. 😉