The powerless

Laura died this past Saturday.  I never really spent much time with her, but many of the women I live with did.  Laura had been one of the first residents of one of our Emmanuel Houses and had been lovingly teaching all who volunteered there for the past fourteen years.  Laura had lived with cerebral palsy in an institution until she was “rescued” by a priest who, along with others who befriended her, helped her to eventually live independently and get a college degree . . . by pecking out papers on a typewriter one key at a time, one hand stabilizing the other.  Eventually Laura had a stroke and was no longer able to live on her own and became a gift to those who serve at Emmanuel House.  It was very hard to understand Laura’s speech, but she spoke volumes nonetheless.  Trapped in her body, she still shone forth.  I can’t tell you how many times I heard the women I live with speak of how much they were learning from Laura.

I mentioned a couple of days ago that I am re-reading a book by Christopher de Vinck, The Power of the Powerlessness.  He tells a similar story about his brother, Oliver.  The main reason I mention all of this right now is not just for the sake of underlining the dignity of all those in such powerless situations, but also to remind each of us of our own dignity when we confront our own powerlessness, when we feel trapped in ourselves.   Laura had the ability to make a daily choice about how to respond to hers.  May we do the same and shine forth as she did.  Lent is a time for doing just that.

Laura Newell
Laura Newell

We all clap

Your bathrobe tie dropped into the toilet, the computer is taking forEVer, the telephone is ringing again, and you still don’t know what you’re making for dinner tonight. . . . and it’s only the beginning of Lent!  Read Christopher deVinck’s story below to remind you of a very, very important principle:

One spring afternoon my five-year-old son, David, and I were planting raspberry bushes along the side of the garage.  He liked to bring the hose and spray the freshly covered roots and drooping leaves.

A neighbor joined us for a few moments and there we stood, my son David, the neighbor and I. We probably discussed how much water a raspberry plant could possibly endure when David placed the hose down and pointed to the ground.  “Look, Daddy!”

If a wasp enters the house, I show my three children, David, Karen and Michael, how I catch the insect with a glass and a piece of thick paper.  I wait for the wasp to stop its frantic thumping and buzzing against the windowpane, then I place the open drinking glass over the creature and trap it.  Then, without pinching the wasp, I slowly slide the thick paper under the glass, and there I have it.

I invite the children to take a close look.  They like to see the wasp’s think wings; then all four of us leave the house through the front door for the release.

The children, standing back a little, like to watch as I remove the paper from the top of the glass.  They like to watch the rescued wasp slowly walk to the rim of the glass, extend its wings, and fly off into the garden.  We all clap, David, Karen, Michael and I.

When David was two he climbed the top of the small blue slide one afternoon in our backyard, and just before he zoomed down, he saw a few ants crawling around on the smooth metal.  “Daddy! Ants!”

We stopped and crouched down to see if we could count how many legs ants have (six); then I gently brushed the ants off the slide and David shot down with glee.

I choose to watch the wasp and count the legs of an ant.

“Look, Daddy!  What’s that?” I stopped talking with my neighbor and looked down.

“A beetle,” I said.

David was impressed and pleased with the discovery of this fancy, colorful creature.

My neighbor lifted his foot and stepped on the insect giving his shoe an extra twist in the dirt.

“That ought to do it,” he laughed.

David looked up at me, waiting for an explanation, a reason.  I did not wish to embarrass my neighbor, but then David turned, picked up the hose and continued spraying the raspberries.

That night, just before I turned off the lights in his bedroom, David whispered, “I liked that beetle, Daddy.”

“I did too,” I whispered back.

We have the power to choose.

Next time the computer freezes, your bathrobe tie falls in the toilet, and the phone rings again, remember you have the power to choose how to respond.  And maybe, just maybe, you could also choose to clap.  Let’s pray for each other this Lent.

P.S. If you’ve never read Chris deVinck’s The Power of the Powerless, from which this excerpt was drawn, do so.  You won’t regret it.

God will not be distracted

” . . . difficulties are magnified out of all proportion simply by fear and anxiety.  From the moment we wake until we fall asleep we must commend other people wholly and unreservedly to God and leave them in his hands, and transform our anxiety for them into prayers on their behalf: With sorry and with grief . . . God will not be distracted.”  (Dietrich Bonhoeffer in Letters from Prison)

 

Hold me there

Lift my eyes to Yours,
my heart to Yours,
and hold me there.
I would not stray from You
willingly,
yet weakness diverts my gaze
too often.
Be consoled, my soul.
His heart’s gaze never strays.
His hold never weakens.

                                                December 14, 1999

Mary words

“Mary’s motherhood is not some vague or abstract sort of thing.  It’s concrete and personal.  And even though it’s universal, it’s also intensely particular.  Mary is your mother.  She is my mother.  In this light, John Paul thinks it’s significant that Mary’s new motherhood on Calvary is expressed in the singular, ‘Behold, your son’ not ‘Behold, your billions of spiritual children.’  The Pope gets to the heart of it when he says, ‘Even when the same woman is the mother of many children, her personal relationship with each one of them is of the very essence of motherhood.’  In short: Mary is uniquely, particularly, personally your mother and my mother, and she doesn’t lose us in the crowd.”  (Michael E. Gaitley, MIC, 33 Days to Morning Glory)

Being Led Home

I love this doctor . . .

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Nothing was helping.  Everything had been tried for a week of the most intensive critical care possible.  A twenty year old man, completely healthy only two weeks previously, was holding on to life by a mere thread and nothing and no one could stop his dying.

His battle against MRSA pneumonia precipitated by a brief influenza-like illness had been lost.   Despite aggressive hemodynamic, antibiotic and ventilator management, he was becoming more hypoxic, his lungs collapsing and his renal function deteriorating.   He had remained unresponsive during the ordeal due to intentional sedation for his time in the ICU.

The intensivist looked weary and defeated. The nurses were staring at their laps, unable to look up, their eyes tearing. The hospital chaplain reached out to hold this young man’s mother’s hands.

After almost a week of heroic effort and treatment, there was now clarity about the next step.

Two hours later, a…

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